The 1% Rule for Creating All Habits

She kept throwing food at me. I was 19 and bought two tuna bagel sandwiches for myself for breakfast. That was the way I rolled. We were arguing. She took a sandwich out of my hands and threw it all over the street. Tuna everywhere. I bet the Old Man and the sea never knew […] Read On…

What I Learned from Chess

How Chess Influenced Me

Chess got me a girlfriend, it got me into college, it got me into graduate school, it got me my first job, it helped me raise money, it got my company sold, and it opens doors when previously they seemed locked to everyone around me. But all of that is superficial. Where it really helped […] Read On…

In A Crisis… Wait

In A Crisis... Wait

I got fired. Security escorted me out. They would send me my box later. A few weeks earlier Amy dumped me for another guy. I lost my inside when I found out. I lost my humanity. All self-help is bullshit. It’s hard to choose yourself when an iceberg hits the Titanic. People write books: “How […] Read On…

How To Learn How To See

How to learn how to see

I was angry at my sister and it was late at night and we were driving on a highway. So I drove onto an off-ramp, stopped the car, and told her to get out. It was dark and there was no sidewalk and cars were coming by. She got out. I drove off. There was […] Read On…

The Horrible Things About Being A Full Time Writer

The Horrible Things About Being A Full Time Writer

First off, you lose all of your friends. But hold off on that for a second. Because it gets worse. I got thrown out of graduate school because I spent all my time writing novels that never got published. I failed five classes in a row and eventually they asked me to leave. Was it […] Read On…

What Is A Strong Woman?

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Claudia sat down next to me while I was writing yesterday and asked the worst question to me, “What do you think a strong woman is?” Why is this the worst question? Because of me. Because of my own insecurities. Maybe deep down I’m afraid if she thinks she’s a strong woman she will leave […] Read On…

Why Do Some People Always Succeed In Life?

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“Why Do Some People Always Succeed?” someone asked me. There’s pain baked into the question. This a question wrapped around a question. The inside of the question is: “Why do I often fail?”. Those people who ALWAYS succeed…it seems wrong. How did they get that way? It seems creepy. I’ve finally been given permission (there […] Read On…