To make a long story short, we had a Family Reunion on Mothers Day 1995.  My mother said, “How could you forgive me, after everything that Ive done to you?”  Said,”It was easy, have always loved you.”  Now reunited with my five children, and Happily married to a fantastic woman who stood by me for years, through all the trauma and period of healing.

HOW do we heal?  Stop focusing on the bad experiences in life.  When you catch yourself, switch to a Blessing or Happy memory.  They do not have to be the best memories, even simple ones help. Times we enjoyed eating something, times someone thought we did something good. Times we enjoyed nature or the feelings we experience in a favorite place.  Go out and DO something, which is memorable.  Create good feelings if you cant remember one.  Go to Disneyland or a National Park and the nicest Beaches.  Then focus on those memories or switch to it when feeling bad.  Switch back and forth between bad feelings and good ones, ten or more times.  Watch for how your feelings change, before long.  There is a book “Fourteen Thousand Things to be Happy about.”  Available used from Amazon.  One client said, “nothing good happened to me in 25 years.”  Asked her if she ever drank a cold glass of juice on a hot day.  If she ever ate ice cream,  If she liked chocolate cake.  Two weeks later she called and said, “Ive just had the best day ever in my life.”  She did it all from remembering simple good memories…