Comments on: Suicide, and 13 Other Ways to Deal with Failure http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/ Ideas for a World Out of Balance Tue, 17 Feb 2015 09:06:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3 By: Hank Murphy http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-47368 Sat, 07 Feb 2015 01:38:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-47368 Yeah, and what if part of the massive failure in ones life is the inability to find a decent job?

]]> By: x http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-47088 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 12:28:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-47088 God does not exists.

]]> By: james_follower http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-43444 Sat, 24 Aug 2013 17:04:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-43444 James, you write some of the best inspirational and thought provoking articles. They always make me think of things in a totally different manner. Your articles are appreciated and affect people in wonderful ways, so please keep writing them. Thank you.

]]> By: Falternot http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-43335 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 20:51:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-43335 Sorry, but I have a way different viewpoint. Failure is final. Failure is damning. No matter how many successes you’ve had, your failures – no matter how few or many – will always haunt you. You look back, and they’re just sitting there. Wouldn’t it be a lot better if one were able to live with a clean track record of constant success? Imagine if you just succeed in everything you do; by the time you hit 50, you have a litany of achievements to boast of, and to be envied. I’d honestly sell my soul to the Devil – or at least give up a testicle – for that kind of life.

]]> By: SensitiveMan http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-40816 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 19:58:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-40816 Why aren’t you running for president, James?

]]> By: the real http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-37730 Thu, 05 Jul 2012 20:12:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-37730 I read the Dale Carnegie years ago, not really a big help. Failure arrows have hit me so many times that they did finally wear me down. I honestly wish several times I had never attempted many things and lived with the delusion that had I tried I could have succeeded. I have read so many things contrary to this but sorry folks it did not work out in my case.

]]> By: Andrew Yugay http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-35305 Tue, 15 May 2012 01:31:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-35305 Russian translation: http://mcmimik.blogspot.com/2012/05/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with.html
Thank you!

]]> By: Javier Rodriguez http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-28175 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 20:47:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-28175 Nice post, even though I only scanned through it. I like most of your thoughts, but am drowned with negative thoughts. Bummer. I gotta try and make time for some of your ideas such as the “comedy” thing. Anyway, take care.

]]> By: Kevin M http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-13329 Mon, 27 Jun 2011 20:29:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-13329 Eight years ago, I was laid off, then decided to get divorced and thus had to sell our house. It was the worst time of my life at the time. Truly it was a “rebirth” now that I look back. I was miserable at that job and with the ex-wife and all the stress the mortgage caused. But it was scary to face the world and the way it would judge me for failing at 3 major life events at once. I’m glad I had good friends and family to show me what is really important in life. I still have my moments of fear that appear at 2 am, but getting through those times (sort of my own worst-case-scenario for a 20-something guy) gives me hope I can move forward.

I had a boss that committed suicide. His son was about my age at the time, I just watched him at the funeral and wondered what brought his father to that point? What made him think removing himself from the picture was the right answer? The only answer?

]]> By: Brooke Farmer http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/suicide-and-13-other-ways-to-deal-with-failure/#comment-13214 Sun, 26 Jun 2011 19:33:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=2449#comment-13214 James, I’m glad you didn’t kill yourself. There were times when the only thing that has stopped me is the same as you- my son. 

Having since witnessed a brutal suicide I can honestly say I would never consider it again. You think about the impact your death will have on friends, coworkers, family and enemies. Maybe those thoughts even bring comfort- the idea of being mourned, the notion of someone else’s regret. It sounds awful, but when you’re in that mindset everything that crosses your mind is awful. 

You don’t think about the impact on strangers- people who have no connection to you whatsoever. But that impact is real and valid and unavoidable. I had something skin to PTSD after I saw that. I never went and got diagnosed or anything like that. But I couldn’t work. I couldn’t even be out in public. I nearly lost friends who couldn’t understand what was wrong with me. All because of something I saw happen to someone whose name I don’t even know. 

Suicide is a terrible thing. If it works and if it doesn’t. 

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