Comments on: The 9 Skills Needed to Become a Super Connector http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/ Ideas for a World Out of Balance Tue, 17 Feb 2015 09:06:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3 By: Katya Kean http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-31856 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 23:44:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-31856 I used to be so shy I couldn’t even look at people.  Even people I knew.  I’d talk at the floor.  Then I just started reading books about how to be more outgoing, how to relate to people, etc.  Books like “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, Keirsey’s “Please Understand Me” (a sappy title, but brilliant book if you want to be comfortable around almost anyone), and whoever wrote “Never Eat Alone”.

I just got back from a lunch with someone I just met recently.  We didn’t even have a reason to talk, I just invited her to lunch, and we found things to talk about.  And now we’re making plans for next week.
Saying “I’m not a people person” is like my saying “I’m not strong enough to climb a mountain. (possibly true).”  The solution, of course, is to just start doing it, little by little, and work your way up.  And talk to experts and read books on how to get better at it, just like learning anything else.

]]> By: Erick http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-28614 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:55:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-28614 Learned and will followup,

]]> By: Steve Muir http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-27640 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 04:59:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-27640 Doug, there’s no doubt about it mate … You have a grip man. I’d rather be a sponge than a rock any day … You might soak up some crap occasionally, but you get a full life out of it. Cheers from a like minded Aussie. Steve

]]> By: philippe demers. http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-25972 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 12:21:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-25972 I will actually use this word for word. Except for the wife part.

]]> By: bahadir cambel http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23973 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 15:26:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23973 Interview people sounds a bit too much for me. But what I can say is ; just listen the other person. Ask questions. Don’t comment. Just ask. Let them speak. They’re going to like you.

]]> By: Charles Howard Hartman http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23728 Mon, 31 Oct 2011 09:38:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23728 Should have added: 
Conduct time?  1–As railroad
conductor.  2–As electricity
transformer, for when a good man dies, great power is released into the field
of time. 3–As an orchestra conductor, the score being written. http://chuckhartmanhistoryconductor.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Charles Howard Hartman http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23727 Mon, 31 Oct 2011 09:37:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23727 Should have added: 
Conduct time?  1–As railroad
conductor.  2–As electricity
transformer, for when a good man dies, great power is released into the field
of time. 3–As an orchestra conductor, the score being written. http://chuckhartmanhistoryconductor.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Dha http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23588 Sat, 29 Oct 2011 17:00:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23588 James, perhaps someone can connect you with spell-check, a lack of basic spelling and grammar really detracts from the content.

]]> By: Andreas Moser http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23472 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 18:56:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23472 I guess I value solitude too much to be good at networking: http://andreasmoser.wordpress.com/2011/03/05/loneliness-doesnt-kill-people-do/
Or maybe I am just bored by most people? Or I can’t pretend that I want to see them again if I really don’t?

]]> By: Brooke Farmer http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/10/the-9-skills-needed-to-become-a-super-connector/#comment-23442 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 04:45:00 +0000 http://www.jamesaltucher.com/?p=3789#comment-23442 Time is the thing that needs to be invested in relationships in order to make them grow and flourish. I doubt I am the first person to suggest that might have been the meaning of your sleepy note to self but… I’m not going to take the time right this second to read through the comments to find out. 

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