Archive for August, 2012

  • What I Am Grateful For
    Posted by on August 31st, 2012 at 8:49 am, Comments: 0

    About a week ago I wrote in a newsletter that I was grateful for my daughter’s nightmares and I explained why. I then asked the readers to do me a favor. I’ve been trying to differentiate the newsletters by giving specific exercises that I think would be interesting. So after divulging my fetish on my daughter’s nightmares I asked the reader for one simple thing: tell me in a paragraph (or two or three) what you are most grateful for in life.

  • Ask James: Moving up the Career Ladder, Marijuana, Ambition, The Presidency, Cramer, and More
    Posted by on August 29th, 2012 at 9:05 am, Comments: 0

    SHOULD YOU BE YOURSELF?

    Tania Hew ‏@taniahew: Interested in your take on advice to be yourself when seeking leadership roles/new jobs.

    Answer:

    Everyone puts on a mask when they wake up in the morning. They have different masks for different occasions. I have my father mask, my partner mask, my lover mask, my friend mask. My work mask. Most of the time those masks wear down. Over time, we become more comfortable being ourselves. On a first date we wear our best clothes. We smile. We spend money. We ask questions and then we ask the person to clarify. Six months later we are sitting around in our underwear watching football on TV next to the girlfriends we reeled in. “What, honey? Did you say something?”

  • Ask James: Failure, Success, Facebook, and How to Survive Your Darkest Moments
    Posted by on August 27th, 2012 at 8:47 am, Comments: 0

     

    [This week’s Q&A was so big I am dividing it into two parts. Today is part 1. To participate in the next Q&A please join me on Twitter on Thursday from 330-430PM EST]

    HOW DO YOU GET COMFORTABLE WITH FAILURE?

    Joel Englander ‏@JoelEnglander: How do you get comfortable with failure?

    Answer:

    Let’s define failure: you pick a goal, take a number of steps to make that goal, and somehow the goal doesn’t happen. And it feels really really bad.

    Is that failure?

    No, not at all.

    Failure is when you then say, “Shit! I failed.”

  • The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Mediocre People
    Posted by on August 24th, 2012 at 10:05 am, Comments: 0

    I’m pretty mediocre. I’m ashamed to admit it.  I’m not even being sarcastic or self-deprecating. I’ve never done anything that stands out as, “whoah! This guy made it into outerspace! Or…this guy has a best selling novel! Or…if only Google had thought of this!” I’ve had some successes and some failures (well-documented here) but never reached any of the goals I had initially set. Always slipped off along the way, off the yellow brick road, into the wilderness.

  • The Ten Ways I Lie
    Posted by on August 22nd, 2012 at 9:19 am, Comments: 0

    I lied to my kids this weekend. I told them I had a fun time with them when really I didn’t. They were brats. I lied to my parents all the time when I was a kid. I lied to clients, colleagues, bosses, employees.