Sometimes things are just simply horrible. There’s no question – some days and moments are the worst. People say “be positive”. That means nothing. Positive got you here.
But you only get to know yourself when you see how you act in those moments.
This is not a fancy post. Nothing funny really. No stories of going broke or being scared or smashing coconuts or making fun of my kids. No stories of dying drunk in the streets and coming back.
A manifesto has nothing to do with money. Money is a byproduct.
It’s not about success. Who knows what that means?
I highly recommend writing down your own manifesto.
Something to fall back on in the worst moments.
Something to strive for. And, in between falling and striving, a simple way to live your best life right now.
Living by your personal manifesto lets you touch people. Let’s you celebrate living. Turns you into someone worth touching.
– Do things that will make me laugh. Do things that will make others laugh. Laughter is the one key to long, quality life.
– Treat everyone as if they are going to die tomorrow. My sweet baby.
– Spend time with people who love me and who I love. Your family might change every day.
– Give everything inside of you away. Else your life gets constipated.
– Keep my word. That’s the one thing you don’t give away lightly. Keep it.
– Spend time with people who I will learn things from (and hopefully vice-versa). They were sent to you for a reason. You’re never going to know the reason.
– Books are virtual mentors. Read a lot.
– Move. Then move again.
– It’s ok to be average if you are a good person. In most things, I’m average or below average. I’m average at following this manifesto. It’s hard to be average.
– Follow your curiosity. That means something different for each person, and for each day. Today I was curious about underwear with pockets and how many albums Pink Floyd sold on “Dark Side of the Moon”. No reason.
– I try to eat well. I see too many older people in pain because of poor eating decisions when they were younger.
– It’s none of my business what people think of me. Someone recently called me “hateful” and then lectured me on the benefits of polygamy. Hey man, we’re all brothers. Life’s too short to waste time not laughing at the joke.
– I try not to need permission for anything. Once I ask, I just let someone else build my ceiling, blocking me from the stars.
– One way to choose yourself is to help the person around you who needs the most help today. Do it without expectation and then you exceed all expectations.
– When I depend on others to choose my path, I know that I won’t be as happy as when I choose my path.
– There are many layers to choosing yourself. So treat yourself gently when you think you messed up. I messed up on something recently. It feels bad. I have to wait it out and be gentle to myself.
– Find new things to be grateful for.
– Listen. You can’t learn if you are talking.
– Listen more if someone is in pain. Don’t solve. Just listen.
– Worrying doesn’t solve tomorrow’s problems and only takes away energy from today. And regret is a black hole of nothing.
– Splitting an atom releases 1,000,0000x more energy than smashing a table. I try to celebrate always the smallest of successes. A kiss is a small success. And it splits an emotional atom.
– For every night, there is a day
– I take real delight in people who have stories to tell me. Particularly if the story has pictures.
– Every day I try to get out of my comfort zone at least once. This helps me feel connected to people. I’m grateful for the people who teach me new ways to get out of my comfort zone.
– I try to be creative. But selfishly. Because it makes my brain go on fire and have comic book powers.
– Before, during, or after, I say, do, or think something, I try not to hurt anyone. “After” is just as important as “Before” and “During”.
– When I am feeling low, rest. When I’m feeling high, do my best.
– The best predictor of a good tomorrow, is a good today.
– Honesty, Humor, Health, Help.
Ok. Enough. I don’t want to seem preachy. This is a manifesto for me. For my dark moments.
This is what works for me. Others have different items that work for them.
And I don’t always follow this. I just try.
Maybe this is corny or cliche. But I will tell you what – I wanted to write this today and I did.
Life is worth living only if it’s worth loving.