How do you know if someone is out to get you at work, or if you’re just being paranoid?

Andrew Ferri ‏ @Andrew_Ferri how do you know if someone is out to get you at work, or if you’re just being paranoid?

ANSWER: The Ferris! Both Ferris have asked a question. Here’s why I love this blog. I only know you guys THROUGH this blog. When I first knew you, you weren’t married. Now you’re married. Congratulations!

And yes, you’re paranoid. But you’re also right. Feelings are facts. If you’re feelingit, then something is bothering you about the situation.

So get it out.

Sit the person down and say, “listen, I’m going to be honest: I’m paranoid because of X, Y, and Z. Maybe we wont’ be best friends on this job. But give me advice on how we can best work together. What can I do to help you with your job so I stop feeling so paranoid?”

Maybe he’s paranoid also. Get it all out.

You might not be friends after that. But you’ll find a way to work together. We all want to work together in peace. We all want that paycheck with the greatest of ease. He’ll work it out with you.

Or he’s a jerk and you should quit.